7 days...

Written by Nadhirah:

On top of all the wedding stress, my dad is in the hospital and will undergo an operation sometime around 10am today.
Please keep him and us in your prayers.

At about the same time in Penang, my niece, my dad's first grandchild, is getting married. It's really quite upsetting for the family and we're all feeling rather torn. However, my dad is in pain and he wants to get well as soon as he can, and of course we cannot cancel a wedding!

So GOOD LUCK to Farhanah and Ezrie!!! Wishing you all the best, the happiest of life and a most wonderful marriage!

To my Daddy... please stay strong as you are always. Please be stubborn about getting better. I want so much for you to be there and give me away on 1 Jan 2011...

Eid Mubarak / Selamat Hari Raya Aidil Adha & 45 days!!!

YES...

It is only 45 days to 'the' day... can you imagine? I can't!
A LOT has happened since 55 days ago when I posted some quick pictures on the 100 day count down.

4th October 2010 was a tragic day for us, whilst we were in Singapore to sort out wedding stuff, without warning, Fozz's father left us to join the Almighty. It came so suddenly and we were definitely unprepared emotionally, but we were thankful to the Almighty for allowing us to spend the last few days of his life together with him. Fozz and the family are still recovering from the loss and saddened by the fact that he will not be around for the wedding but God works in mysterious ways. His last advice given to us over breakfast on Saturday will not be forgotten.

Now that you're getting married, whatever social commitments you have on the outside, like your band and friends, will now have to be given up by about 50% because that 50% now belongs to Tasha and vice versa, because marriage is something you need to work on continuously.

I know this sounds pretty basic to most people, so I think only for people who have been around to witness the dynamics of our relationship will understand the impact of this. We will persevere to remember and work on.

We had considered cancelling or postphoning the reception, but after much consultation and thought, we realised, that Fozz's father, had been one of the ones who was most excited about the wedding, and we are sure he would be disappointed had we not continued with our plans.

There's still quite a bit more to do for the wedding for SURE... but things are falling into place slowly..... slowllllyyyyy... hahahaha..

45 days........

Picture taken by Shutterspeak on the bench he proposed on :)

In 100 days... we'll be married!

pic courtesy of Caine John

Sneak peak into our wedding stationery..... courtesy of Reka Teemor

Malay Wedding Dress Code

Written by Nadhirah

Proof read by Fozz whilst at an exhibition in Delhi, India

Malay Wedding Dress Codes

After more than 15 people asking me what to wear during a Malay wedding over the spread of 3 months, I thought, alright it’s high time I find something I could copy and paste.

So off I went googling “Malay Wedding Dress Codes” (yes I love Google, more than Facebook or any other internet tools out there!) and what a lot of nonsense did I FIND!

YES, this is one of those moments where you can say, ‘can’t trust everything you find on the internet’!

Nonsense No 1

Do not wear green as this is a Malay funeral colour.

Nadhirah’s Respond

ERM?? HELLOOOO?? Since WHEN? There is no such thing as a ‘pantang’ (superstitious) colour for Muslims and Malays! Black is discouraged ONLY because it is a joyous occasion and some people  would prefer ‘colour’ as Malay weddings are quite colourful compared to a Western wedding but that’s about it! In fact Green is a LOVED colour by Muslims! Most Muslim websites, logos and all tend to have green incorporated but it is unclear why green has manifested to be associated to Islam.

Nonsense No 2

Tux are advisable for an outdoor Malay wedding

Nadhirah’s Respond

OK say it with me “TROPICAL COUNTRY”. Malaysia & Singapore being so close to the equator is humid and sweltering. Most Malay weddings (including my Ipoh one) is at home, outdoors in the afternoon, so I can assure you suits and tuxes are not needed!

Nonsense No 3

Most Malay men like bright green and pink thus this is encouraged

Nadhirah’s Respond

OK, first green is a funeral colour and now it is encouraged!? Honestly. *scratches head* And what’s with the green and pink combination?! Odd, I don’t know if this is a new trend in Malaysia/Singapore, but I don’t think there are such things!

So here are our own thoughts on this matter:

Akad Nikah

If you’re invited to an akad nikah/solemnisation, which is often a sacred event, small and usually only a small number of family and friends are invited too, it is advisable that you observe a conservative dress code. The religious celebrant would be there and so would many older relatives who would tend to hold to traditional values.

For the ladies, dresses need to be lower than knee length and cleavages needs to be out of sight!

Akad nikah/solemnisations are semi-formal and traditional wear from your respective cultures are highly encouraged, but if you don’t have a set of traditional wear from the country you’re from, for men, pants and collared shirt, for ladies, lovely summer maxi dresses are good.

For Muslim ladies, headgears, scarfs, veils are encouraged.

Afternoon receptions/luncheons

If you’re invited to an afternoon luncheon/reception which has no set itinerary, it is usually a food fest that runs for a set period. The Ipoh wedding is outdoors, whilst Singapore wedding is thankfully in an air-conditioned venue.

Again traditional wear from your respective cultures are encouraged otherwise semi-formal, pants and collared shirt for men, lovely summer dresses which are knee length or pants and tops for ladies are encouraged.  In saying that, it is encouraged to apply a certain amount of conservatism in your dressing. Do watch the necklines, strapless and spagetthi strap dresses/tops may be deemed disrespectful. So adorning a simple bolero, scarf or light cardigan or even a translucent overcoat is encouraged.   

Night Receptions

If you are invited to a Malay wedding reception which is at night and it has a set itinerary. DRESS to IMPRESS codes applies. Again traditional wear from your respective cultures are highly encouraged, but similar to the above, whilst adorning beautiful dresses, do try to be slightly modest in your dressing.

If you still have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask questions!

On a side note:

Some Malay weddings, theming is a large part of the reception, so you may get requests from the bride or groom to dress in a certain colour. We however appreciate all your efforts to make it and welcome you to come dressed in your finest and most comfortable and let’s just enjoy the day! 

9 August 2010

As of today, we have been together for:

5 years 4 months

or

1948 days

and its

145 days to our wedding!

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